By +Jeanne Takenaka @JeanneTakenaka
Our Five Minute Friday prompt this week is—FAMILY. This largely unedited “rough draft” form of writing stretches this perfectionist, in the best of ways. I write for five minutes on a given topic. If you’re interested in learning more about 5-Minute Fridays, check out our hostess, Kate Motaung’s site. Or, click on the link at the bottom of this post. As you read my simpler Friday posts, I hope you’ll join in the conversation!
Why do we let those we love the most see the ugliest versions of us?
Why is it we feel like we have the right to vent on those closest to us?
I’d never talk to my friends the way I talk to my boys. I never even talk to a telemarketer the way I talk with my boys sometimes.
And for that, I am ashamed.
I don’t speak disrespectfully to my friends, but I feel its okay, at least sometimes, to subject my husband, my boys, to that?
Especially with the males in my home, I must guard my words, and guide my tones of voice. They hear and understand love through RESPECT.
I need to be able to be real with my family. Let the guards down and share my fears, my hurts, my insecurities with them. But, I also need to love them well.
I can only do both well when I ‘m walking closely with Jesus. It’s when I allow Him to conform me to His image that I can love well, that I can speak truth with grace and still be real.
When I focus on being real without the love of Jesus guiding me? I will also be hurtful, at least sometimes.
When I seek to love my family without the freedom to speak truth, and share the real me? I squelch a part of myself, and that leads to me being unkind, disrespectful, and sometimes downright rude.
Loving well isn’t something I can do in my own strength, but it’s what I want to do with this amazing family God’s put around me.
One hubby who loves and leads us well. Who provides so much for us.
Two boys who I love to pieces and who love me with all of themselves. How can I love them less by withholding some of myself from them?
This family-life is a dance of grace and truth. It’s hard to walk in both constantly, but it’s what I want to do, because my guys are worth it.
And who knows, maybe my boys will see glimpses of Jesus in the loving and learn to love Him and others well as they grow older too. That’s my greatest hope.
What about you? What’s your favorite aspect of family? What’s your grace walk in your family life?
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