Can I be honest and say that I was naive about the teen years? I had this idea that, sure, the boys would grow bigger, hormones would pulse, change their voices, add odors, and transform them from children into men.
I had the idea that, though there would be disagreements, we’d be able to work through them the way we always have: talking about them.
What I didn’t anticipate was the changes in personality. The sneakiness as their thought processes develop. I didn’t expect the volatile emotions. I know, I know. I should have.
The teen years are called tumultuous for a reason.
One boy turned thirteen this year, and the other is on the cusp of the teen years. I’ve watched friends walk through heartbreak with their teens, and I commiserated with them . . . to the extent that I could understand their mama-hurts.
Now, though . . .
Now, I’m beginning to understand more of the depth of heart hurts that come as our children grow in independence. Make choices that aren’t always wise. As they learn skills that aren’t all good.
I’ve prayed since they were little that their sin would find them out. I’m so thankful God answers this prayer. He’s revealing the boys’ sin choices to us. Knowing how to train them at that heart level? That’s something I have yet to figure out.
Sometimes, this motherhood journey leaves me weary. As I peek into the long days, weeks, years, with teens in the house, I’m tasting the heartbreak that every mother must partake in.
Because we’re moms.
Our boys are experimenting with new freedoms, new choices, new influences. Yes, this is how they grow. Even though they are teenagers, they’re still in training. Honestly? Based on what we’ve walked through recently, part of me dreads the coming years.
God is with me in this moment. In each moment. When I’m tempted to fear the coming challenges—the inevitable heartaches that come as kids grow into adulthood—I need to remember this:
God is with me.
He doesn’t want me worrying about the future. He’s using this day to 1) equip me for the coming challenges, and 2) to give me practice in trusting His word, His faithfulness. He’s giving me opportunities to lean into Him.
He has reminded me that He is with me in this day. He will be with me in each day.
This is true for all of us.
Whatever we’re dealing with, God is with us in this moment, in these circumstances.
He is preparing us for future things as we walk out today. Each step we take, each choice we make today? These lay the foundation for the future. For the difficulties and for the joys.
He doesn’t want us to look toward and borrow tomorrow’s trouble. He wants us to live in this day, trusting Him for today.
Though we’re limited to living one moment at a time, we are loved by a God who isn’t confined between the walls of minutes. He’s walking out today with us, building the foundation that will prepare us for our futures.
We can trust Him today. And in each coming day.
What about you? When you feel overwhelmed by today’s challenges, what truths do you cling to? What wise advice do you offer to moms of teens?