Five Minute Friday scribblings

Share: Making an Impact

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By +Jeanne Takenaka @JeanneTakenaka

My Five Minute Friday prompt this week is—SHARE. This largely unedited “rough draft” form of writing stretches this perfectionist, in the best of ways. I write for five minutes on a given topic. If you’re interested in learning more about 5-Minute Fridays, check out our hostess, Kate Motaung’s site. Or, click on the link at the bottom of this post. As you read my simpler Friday posts, I hope you’ll join in the conversation!

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Last night, I attended a “Happy Birthday/Retirement” party for a friend. We women enjoyed an evening of shared laughter, a little roasting, but mostly tributes to the impact this woman has had on so many lives.

She shares of herself . . . not reservedly. When you meet with her, she’s all there with you, not checking her cell phone or looking at her watch. Engaged. With you. All in the moment.

She’s shared much mommy-ing wisdom with me. As the mother of three grown all-boy boys, she’s walked many roads I’m just embarking upon.

She’s shared of herself, investing in the lives of women, being a life-changer to so many.

As I watched her, as people lauded all she’s done—especially her deep love for Jesus—it challenged me.

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How many times have I withheld myself because of my own issues, or because I didn’t have time, or because . . .

Fear sometimes keeps me from sharing the giftings God’s given me. Fear of rejection or of “not being enough.”

But, God . . .

. . . when we make ourselves available to Him, when we share what He’s given us with others, shaken down, pressed in and flowing over . . .

. . . then His beauty shines forth.

I need not worry about being rejected, or not enough. When I’m pouring out God, splashing His love into the lives of those around me—invested in each moment—I’m reflecting Jesus to them.

Not that I want a party thrown in my honor, but I do hope to one day hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant . . . “

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I want to share all that God’s given me with others, to be an encouragement, an uplifter, a truth-giver.

To share His joy, a compassionate touch, a listening ear and what wisdom God’s given me.

Maybe even have an impact on one life.

What about you? Who has had an impact on your life? How do you share of yourself with others?

Read Kate Motaung’s post about Share.

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22 thoughts on “Share: Making an Impact”

  1. Such a great reminder. I withhold myself and get caught up in not-enoughness. Yet those who have had the biggest impact on my life are the ones who give without reservation. I hope to let go of my insecurities and learn to bless others with all I have.

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  2. This was such a good reminder. I especially loved this:
    “I need not worry about being rejected, or not enough. When I’m pouring out God, splashing His love into the lives of those around me—invested in each moment—I’m reflecting Jesus to them.”
    What a beautiful image! Thanks for sharing it with us. (I’m your neighbor at Five Minute Friday today, and I’m so thankful I got to read your words.)

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  3. This is so beautifully written, encouraging, and convicting. I struggle so much with being present, therefore, I withhold the part of myself that’s not engaged. How I want to let go and share more… not caring about what I’m missing or what I have to do next. These words of yours are so powerful: “When I’m pouring out God, splashing His love into the lives of those around me—invested in each moment—I’m reflecting Jesus to them.” Yes- pouring out to God and asking Him to help me in each moment. So I can share myself and Him with others. I’m so glad I stopped by. Your beautiful words and heartfelt messages always bless me. ~Peace to you, friend.

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    1. Karen, I hadn’t thought about it before, but I tend to withhold the part of myself that isn’t engaged in the moment too. I’m working to establish the life trait of being fully engaged, especially when I’m interacting with others.

      Thanks for your encouraging words! You are a blessing, friend!

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  4. Wonderful post, and a lovely picture!

    One thing I have learned about sharing is that it has to work in both directions, in that sharing has to be met by acceptance to that which is shared.

    Easier said than done; we can pay lip service to someone’s willingness to share while still holding them at arms’ length. I think this is very common in marriages, and perhaps it stems from wanting to set limits on how well we know the person to whom we’re married.

    I wonder if, to a degree, we prefer the image we have to the reality?

    A number of people have shared both knowledge and faith with me in my efforts to become a writer, and I do try to pass that along (well, the faith part, anyway).

    While it’s hard, I’m trying to be pretty transparent about faith, health, and life issues, in the hope that someone may benefit from the sharing. My life really isn’t about a ‘me’ whose dignity needs to be protected. It is meant to be used, like an extension cord is only useful if connected.

    OK, bad analogy. I’m a redneck; I’ve used broken extension cords to fix fences. But you know what I mean.

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    1. The downside of a five minute free write is I can only share a limited perspective. You are very right, Andrew. For sharing to be genuine, it needs to go both ways in relationships, and especially in marriage. I think sharing also flows more freely in a safe environment. When someone is striving for image rather than reality, genuine sharing will be stilted at best.

      Your honest sharing on your blog encourages and uplifts your readers.

      And I grinned at the redneck remark. 🙂 I’ve never thought to fix a broken fence with an extension cord. But I know duct tape is good for lots of fixes. 😉

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    1. I agree, Lisa. So often, people are dual-or triple-focused on a task, an electronic and maybe a person. Giving a person all of ourselves is a gift, isn’t it? You are a person who makes an impact! 🙂

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  5. Love your post. I think you’ve hit a nail on the head; people need connection, real, deep, connection. As that’s becoming harder and harder to find, we’re spiralling off in to places trying to find connection and it’s hollow. Real people, people who put others – and their needs – first, they’re few and far between but when we find them, they provide so much joy. I’m learning, slowly learning, to be more like your friend. Our presence has power.

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    1. I agree. It’s easy to focus on someone I “connect” (on one level) on a screen. But genuine connection? That comes face to face. Or it can come speaking on the phone. Putting others first in where we focus, in how we speak and what we do? I’m still working to be consistent in this. 🙂

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  6. Beautiful post Jeanne! In this electronic age i fear for he kids whose main connection is the the hand held one. True giving of self comes when eye meets eye sharing the inner self or by touching hand to hand or hand to shoulder, you know. . . Just sharing thoughts.

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    1. You’re right, Mom. True connection comes when eye meets eye, or sometimes voice meets voice over the phone. But those connections come when we actively engage with another person, being fully in the moment. There’s definitely connection when touch is involved. Loved your thoughts!

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  7. I enjoyed your post. A couple things jumped out at me: Your friend is fully engaged when with others – no checking of cell phones. (I hate when people do that!) Fully listening is a gift we don’t receive too much these days …

    Also, you said something I long for, too: “I do hope to one day hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant . . . “

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  8. What a beautiful tribute and timely reminder that we need to stop wallowing in our fear and be willing to be vulnerable with people–to share with them at deep levels and not just surface stuff. I’m so glad you have a friend like this!

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    1. You’re right, Anita. Sometimes it feels easier to wallow in our fear, rather than choose to be vulnerable. But, oh the gifts that come when we’re willing to open ourselves up. 🙂 I’m truly blessed to have her in my life. I hope you have someone like this too.

      Thanks so much for stopping by!

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