Forgiveness: What If . . . . . ?

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What If . . . I could see those who have hurt me through eyes of compassion?

What if . . . I could completely forgive them, release the desire to hold onto the hurt—choosing to forget rather than remember the pain?

What if . . . I could learn to look at them through eyes of love rather than eyes of distaste, dislike or even hate?

What if . . . I could move beyond myself and truly put on the heart of Jesus?

ImageWe—none of us—knows how many days we have to walk this earth. None of us knows which day will be the day of our home going to heaven.

Life is short, too short to hold onto grievances, to let parts of myself wither rather than bloom in the light that forgiveness shines.

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What if . . . I could grow in the perspective that sometimes people hurt me and don’t realize they have, that they never intended to.

Sometimes the hurting comes out of ignorance. Sometimes it squeezes out of a heart bound up in regret and carrying hurts inflicted on them.

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I can choose forgiveness. Or not.

Forgiving releases me from bitterness—a bitterness that roots itself deeper into my heart, the longer I cling to my right to “get even.” Bitterness creates darkness in the soul.

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The moment—the very second—I choose to forgive, that is the instant bitterness begins to die and light begins to shine in.

Image What if . . . I choose to cling to God, to trust Him to bring healing to me, to my heart . . . to cut loose the chains forged by my gripping the hurt?

Forgiveness, in the choosing and in walking it out, gifts me with freedom.

What about you? What are your thoughts on forgiveness? How do you make the choice to forgive when you’ve been hurt?

Great post by Dave Hamlin about forgiveness

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9 thoughts on “Forgiveness: What If . . . . . ?

  1. Forgiveness is a question I’ve been thinking about a lot recently – and so has Dave Hamlin, along with Beth Stefaniak, on her superb blog, http://www.messymarriage.com.

    Looking into my own heart, I find that forgiveness has a limit. I can let go of a lot of personal hurts quite easily. Not because I’m a particularly good person, but because they really don’t amount to much compared to other things I’ve seen – and experienced – in life.

    And therein lies the issue. In working in various parts of a violent world, and working as an advocate for mistreated dogs, I have seen things that would turn your stomach, and if described would give memories that you would wish to scrub away. (So I won’;t describe them.)

    But, to be honest – I would deal harshly with the perpetrators, without compassion, mercy, or remorse. Well, would deal..? Maybe I should substitute ‘have dealt’. Honor, and the memory of the victims, demanded no less.

    If I was wrong, I’ll face my fate, but I’ll look God in the eye when He makes His decision. I fought what I considered the good fight, and I’d do it again.

    No regrets.

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    • Andrew, you always bring a depth and a good perspective with you. I appreciate your honesty. There are situations where forgiveness comes with boundaries. I don’t mean necessarily limited forgiveness, but rather, boundaries put in place that protect one from the abuse inflicted, or the hurts maliciously bestowed on a person. It’s a process, not a one-time decision. And it’s hard to live in the decision when the hurts run deep.

      Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights.

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  2. I’ve let a lot go.I’ve forgiven many people. I’m still supremely annoyed at a few, and I think a few are beyond me worrying about. When a person refuses to acknowledge what he or she did, I can only choose to let it go and give it to God.
    There are some boundaries that are temporary, and some made of titanium.
    I often would get confused between forgiveness and absolution. But now I know there’s a difference.

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  3. A truly wonderful post on forgiveness. So glad I stopped in. Loved this ~> “What if . . . I choose to cling to God, to trust Him to bring healing to me, to my heart . . . to cut loose the chains forged by my gripping the hurt?” I’m choosing to cling to God with all my heart. Blessings to you.

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    • Beth, thanks so much for stopping by today. Trusting God to heal the hurts caused by others can be tricky. I think the first step is turning to God with it. 🙂 Have a wonderful weekend!

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